The following is an excerpt from my new book “The Book of Agreement” from out later this year.   This book is written to help married couple live in unity and agreement.  The book will provide instruction about how to come into agreement and how to stay that way.  I believe most if not all marital strife is solved when couple learn this very important skill.  I believe God will provide blessing beyond your imagination when you come into unity through Bible based agreement within your marriage.


Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12 Reads:

Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor
If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Solomon says it is better to have two than one to stay warm when you lie down and to share the labor and to help one another up.  But a cord of three strands? Wait there is me and my wife traveling together, lying down together, helping each other up who is this third?  This book is about Christian Unity. Christ is that third strand and no couple that has their lives centered on a strong relationship with Christ will have marital troubles… period.  I know this from personal experience.

I was married and divorced before I met and married Gay. I was married for five years right out of high school.  We did not know who christ was much less did we ever invite him into our relationship. I committed the sin of divorce; a sin for which I have repented and been forgiven but a sin for which I will reap a harvest for the rest of my life. Make no mistake about it, there was no unity in the house between me and my first wife. We spent a few happy years together but when Satan showed up we were defenseless and our marriage was destroyed.

Gay and I were married in 1979, neither of us had a personal relationship with Christ. I was on the same path as before with this marriage as my first. When Satan showed up I had no defense against him and I had no since for what unity looked like. I was in danger of the two stranded cord being broken again. In 1985 on a whim, Gay and I attend a local church in Jacksonville, Florida.  We met Christ there and started our relationship anew with Christ. Satan still attacks, he just can not cut that three stranded cord. This strengthening has provided the platform on which to build true unity in our married relationship.  The result is happier than I ever believed possible…  Happily Ever After !!

This is a book about building strong, trusting relationships. Relationships based on mutual agreement and unity that will last a lifetime. From the time that God married Adam and Eve in the Garden it has always been his intention that we should marry and that our marriages should last forever. Please understand that becoming blissfully happy is not a light switch event but rather a life time of getting better and better. Like filling a pool with water from the well we keep dropping the bucket in the well and pulling it up. We take turns pulling the long rope up from the deep well. Some days Gay is turning the handle others I am and on days when neither of us can that third member of the team is glad to pour out the living water we need.

====  Look for the book to be published in time for Christmas season ====

Also, please pray for me as I work through this publication.  It is harder than it looks, but I believe God has called Gay and I to witness to marriages.  Drop me a note to let me know you are praying by clicking here.